What is Matrescence?

“Matrescence is the process of adapting to a series of changes associated with becoming and being a mother” Matrescence NZ

Matrescence is often described as being like adolescence — not because the experiences are the same, but because both are periods of profound change. It’s the physical, emotional, social, and identity shifts that unfold as you step into, and move through, motherhood.

It touches every part of life:

• Your body — hormones, fatigue, healing, brain changes

• Your emotions — new depths, contradictions, and tenderness

• Your identity — shifting roles, values, and sense of self

• Your relationships — with your partner, friends, whānau

• Your purpose — what matters, what no longer fits, what feels true

For many mothers, this transition feels both grounding and destabilising. You may feel deeply connected one moment and completely overwhelmed the next. You might grieve who you were, even as you love who you’re becoming. You might feel joy, resentment, clarity, confusion — sometimes all in the same day.

None of this is a sign that you’re failing.
It’s a sign that you’re becoming.

When we understand matrescence, we can approach motherhood with more compassion and far less comparison. It helps us make sense of why this season feels so big — and reminds us that we’re not meant to navigate it alone.

Your journey is unique, but you are not alone in it.

If you’re reading this and thinking “Yes… this makes so much sense”, I’ve created a gentle, free guide to help you explore matrescence in a deeper, more supported way.
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